'Rough stuff' or playing or doing a scene (depending on what you call it) can involve some pretty intense emotions and sensations. Afterwards being gentle, cuddling, checking in, looking after the bottom and making sure they're all right is very important. Otherwise it can lead to some nasty endorphin crashes and emotional side effects. It's called aftercare.
Tops/dominants can also get what's called 'top drop' so the checking-in during aftercare can (or should) be mutual.
Also, completely unrelated to aftercare, you can cuddle someone and also dominate them at the same time, trust me.
oh ok so r u only a top or dominant then? sorry if thats like a sensitive topic or not something ok to ask im heinously clueless abt parts of gay culture i couldnt really look into this stuff at home lol so im reeeaal behind
and if u dont mind me also asking what should i use to refer to u? r u he or she? or should i use another pronoun?
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Tops/dominants can also get what's called 'top drop' so the checking-in during aftercare can (or should) be mutual.
Also, completely unrelated to aftercare, you can cuddle someone and also dominate them at the same time, trust me.
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so r u only a top or dominant then?
sorry if thats like a sensitive topic or not something ok to ask
im heinously clueless abt parts of gay culture
i couldnt really look into this stuff at home lol so im reeeaal behind
and if u dont mind me also asking
what should i use to refer to u?
r u he or she? or should i use another pronoun?